Having a workout partner is one of the bigger decisions you can make toward achieving your workout goals. The right workout partner can give you the motivation needed to help push you along but it is important to note the opposite can be true. And having the wrong workout partner can keep you from achieving your goals. This could be the difference between having great workouts and being really motivated to awful workouts and dreading having to go the gym altogether.
Years ago, I had a partner who was into working out and had a real passion for it. I was so excited to work out with him because he was fit and full of motivation. While he was great at motivating me not to miss a workout he was terrible at motivating me once we got into our workouts. Why? Because we only did what he wanted and we were doing the same exercises. Over and over again. Any idea I had was ignored or he’d promise do it next time. It became apparent that it was his way or the highway.
I got pretty bored mainly because I had no say in our routine. It got to the point where I hated working out with him and ended up picking the highway. I came away from that experience with the understanding…having a workout partner is an actual partnership…you should be able to get something from your partner just as your partner should be able to get something from you. Otherwise, it will never work and you will not achieve the gains you have for yourself.
The best way to avoid this is to discuss your routines with your partner on a weekly basis. Make clear what you want to accomplish in your workouts. There is no worse feeling than doing a workout that you feel doesn’t benefit you or you feel is accomplishing someone else’s goal. There may be times where you can follow your partner on one routine and the next time he can follow you. Talk to your partner about new exercises that you may want to incorporate and discuss the ones you currently are doing that don’t seem to work for you. You may even decide to do separate workouts on some days because you want to work on areas you feel you are lacking. There may be days where you simply just want to do something totally different than he does. It’s okay to go to the gym and do separate workouts once in a while. Communication is key to keeping the partnership going.
By being honest with each other about what is working or not working you can continue to motivate each other to reach your goals. By keeping your workouts fresh you will find that you are both being challenged. This way, you not only motivate each other but you look forward to working out with each other. Two highly motivated individuals working together to reach their goals can make all the difference.